Questions Before Moving In Together

Which belongings need a permanent place before the move is considered finished?

Who handles which household tasks, and how often?

What does a room being ready for visitors mean to each of us?

How do you feel about having overnight guests stay over?

How much notice would we want before someone stays overnight?

What does a typical weeknight dinner look like for us?

Which quiet hours would help both our routines work?

What are your rules or preferences around phones in the bedroom?

What should happen when one person's idea of clean differs from the other's?

Pets, do we want any, and who is responsible for what?

How will we notice supplies running low without assigning one person all the remembering?

How do we want to handle family visits and holidays?

Which spaces should stay available for individual use?

How do we want to handle conflict in a space we cannot leave?

How would we handle one person working while the other is relaxing at home?

Who has the final say when we disagree about the home?

What should be discussed before moving or giving away a shared item?

What are our thoughts on joint accounts vs keeping finances separate?

Which possessions are personal even if they are stored in a shared room?

Whose name goes on the lease, and what does that mean if we split?

What is our plan when both people are too tired to cook or clean?

What's the minimum tidiness you can actually live with?

How do we want to handle deliveries, repairs and appointments that need someone at home?

How often can friends stay over without asking?

Which chores include planning as well as the visible action?

What time does the house go quiet?

What would a useful weekly home check-in cover without becoming a meeting about everything?

What's your relationship with mess when you're stressed?

Which routine from living separately are we each keen to keep?

How much time alone do you need in a normal week?

How should we ask for alone time when we are both home?

How do you feel about sharing a bed every single night?

What information do we want to share before inviting a friend over spontaneously?

Who cooks, and what happens when neither of us wants to?

Which purchases should wait until we have lived in the space for a while?

What are your non-negotiables about noise?

How can we make asking for help different from managing the other person?

What happens to your things that I hate?

What would we do if one person's workload changes suddenly?

Do we have a rule about going to bed angry?

Which sounds, lights or temperatures matter particularly to sleep or concentration?

How long do we sign for, and what if it isn't working?

How will we decide when something needs repairing rather than replacing?

What does 'contributing fairly' mean to you beyond money?

Which corners of the home should reflect each person's taste?

What's our budget for things the flat needs?

What is a respectful way to raise a small household irritation early?

What are we each expecting this to change about us?

How do we want to divide the work of hosting and cleaning up afterward?

What habit of mine do you think will be hardest to live with?

What would make the first month feel welcoming rather than like a permanent moving project?

How do we make sure this still feels like a relationship, not a flatshare?

Which agreement should we review after trying it for a few weeks?

Is this a step toward something, or just practical?

What sign would tell us that sharing a home is supporting both our lives?

How will we check in on how it's going, and how often?