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Pet Peeve or Dealbreaker? Questions

Talk through the difference between an annoying habit and a boundary that matters. Make space for different limits.

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All 54 questions

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Questions 1–20
  1. Starting a shared film while the other person is still getting comfortable. — Fine for me or Pet peeve or Dealbreaker for me or Depends on context

  2. Checking phone during dinner — No Big Deal or Pet Peeve 😒 or Dealbreaker 🚫

  3. Using the last clean towel without mentioning it. — Fine for me or Pet peeve or Dealbreaker for me or Depends on context

  4. Leaving the toilet seat up/down — No Big Deal or Pet Peeve 😒 or Dealbreaker 🚫

  5. Turning every small purchase into a debate. — Fine for me or Pet peeve or Dealbreaker for me or Depends on context

  6. Talking about relationship problems with friends — No Big Deal or Pet Peeve 😒 or Dealbreaker 🚫

  7. Agreeing to host visitors before checking with you. — Fine for me or Pet peeve or Dealbreaker for me or Depends on context

  8. Not cleaning up after cooking — No Big Deal or Pet Peeve 😒 or Dealbreaker 🚫

  9. Interrupting a story to correct a minor detail. — Fine for me or Pet peeve or Dealbreaker for me or Depends on context

  10. Forgetting important dates — No Big Deal or Pet Peeve 😒 or Dealbreaker 🚫

  11. Leaving shared plans vague until the last minute. — Fine for me or Pet peeve or Dealbreaker for me or Depends on context

  12. Leaving clothes on the floor — No Big Deal or Pet Peeve 😒 or Dealbreaker 🚫

  13. Borrowing your charger and leaving it in another room. — Fine for me or Pet peeve or Dealbreaker for me or Depends on context

  14. Chewing with mouth open — No Big Deal or Pet Peeve 😒 or Dealbreaker 🚫

  15. Reading work messages during a conversation you set aside time for. — Fine for me or Pet peeve or Dealbreaker for me or Depends on context

  16. Never replying to messages until hours later — No Big Deal or Pet Peeve 😒 or Dealbreaker 🚫

  17. Treating the other person's rest time as available chore time. — Fine for me or Pet peeve or Dealbreaker for me or Depends on context

  18. Talking through every film — No Big Deal or Pet Peeve 😒 or Dealbreaker 🚫

  19. Making a private disagreement part of a group joke. — Fine for me or Pet peeve or Dealbreaker for me or Depends on context

  20. Hiding how much they spent — No Big Deal or Pet Peeve 😒 or Dealbreaker 🚫

Questions 21–40
  1. Changing the thermostat repeatedly without discussing it. — Fine for me or Pet peeve or Dealbreaker for me or Depends on context

  2. Chewing loudly — No Big Deal or Pet Peeve 😒 or Dealbreaker 🚫

  3. Promising to help but requiring repeated reminders. — Fine for me or Pet peeve or Dealbreaker for me or Depends on context

  4. Leaving the washing up 'to soak' overnight — No Big Deal or Pet Peeve 😒 or Dealbreaker 🚫

  5. Leaving a cupboard door open in a narrow walkway. — Fine for me or Pet peeve or Dealbreaker for me or Depends on context

  6. Being on the phone during dinner — No Big Deal or Pet Peeve 😒 or Dealbreaker 🚫

  7. Inviting someone to stay overnight without checking shared space. — Fine for me or Pet peeve or Dealbreaker for me or Depends on context

  8. Snoring every single night — No Big Deal or Pet Peeve 😒 or Dealbreaker 🚫

  9. Calling a hobby childish because you do not share it. — Fine for me or Pet peeve or Dealbreaker for me or Depends on context

  10. Not telling you when something's wrong — No Big Deal or Pet Peeve 😒 or Dealbreaker 🚫

  11. Deciding how much food another person should eat. — Fine for me or Pet peeve or Dealbreaker for me or Depends on context

  12. Leaving cupboard doors open — No Big Deal or Pet Peeve 😒 or Dealbreaker 🚫

  13. Telling the ending of a story you wanted to discover yourself. — Fine for me or Pet peeve or Dealbreaker for me or Depends on context

  14. Never wanting to talk about the future — No Big Deal or Pet Peeve 😒 or Dealbreaker 🚫

  15. Assuming a quiet mood means something is wrong with the relationship. — Fine for me or Pet peeve or Dealbreaker for me or Depends on context

  16. Being messy in shared spaces only — No Big Deal or Pet Peeve 😒 or Dealbreaker 🚫

  17. Giving away a shared possession without asking. — Fine for me or Pet peeve or Dealbreaker for me or Depends on context

  18. Interrupting you mid-sentence — No Big Deal or Pet Peeve 😒 or Dealbreaker 🚫

  19. Replying to a practical question with a joke every time. — Fine for me or Pet peeve or Dealbreaker for me or Depends on context

  20. Refusing to go to therapy, ever — No Big Deal or Pet Peeve 😒 or Dealbreaker 🚫

Questions 41–54
  1. Leaving your belongings in the other person's working space. — Fine for me or Pet peeve or Dealbreaker for me or Depends on context

  2. Being different around their friends — No Big Deal or Pet Peeve 😒 or Dealbreaker 🚫

  3. Expecting praise for a task the other person does routinely. — Fine for me or Pet peeve or Dealbreaker for me or Depends on context

  4. Keeping their location permanently off — No Big Deal or Pet Peeve 😒 or Dealbreaker 🚫

  5. Playing phone audio aloud while the other person is reading. — Fine for me or Pet peeve or Dealbreaker for me or Depends on context

  6. Spending hours on their phone in bed — No Big Deal or Pet Peeve 😒 or Dealbreaker 🚫

  7. Treating an agreed arrival time as only a suggestion. — Fine for me or Pet peeve or Dealbreaker for me or Depends on context

  8. Making big decisions without you — No Big Deal or Pet Peeve 😒 or Dealbreaker 🚫

  9. Making every photo opportunity take several attempts. — Fine for me or Pet peeve or Dealbreaker for me or Depends on context

  10. Never admitting when they're wrong — No Big Deal or Pet Peeve 😒 or Dealbreaker 🚫

  11. Dismissing a preference because most people would not care. — Fine for me or Pet peeve or Dealbreaker for me or Depends on context

  12. Leaving you out of conversations at parties — No Big Deal or Pet Peeve 😒 or Dealbreaker 🚫

  13. Expecting the other person to explain why they declined something repeatedly. — Fine for me or Pet peeve or Dealbreaker for me or Depends on context

  14. Not wanting the same things long term — No Big Deal or Pet Peeve 😒 or Dealbreaker 🚫

A little permission to take it slowly.

Choose one question when you have time to listen. There is no need to get through the whole collection.

These are informal conversation prompts. They do not diagnose an attachment style, assess your mental health or measure whether a relationship will succeed.